No one is immune to loss, and endings bring up a lot of different emotions and behaviours. There is no right/wrong way to grieve, and there is no magic pill to get rid of it. The event remains the same but our relationship to the loss changes, and we change too. Grief isn't just about those who have physically died - we can mourn people who are in active addiction, terminally ill, estranged relatives and friends as well as relationship endings and divorce, and even life transitions. We can grieve older versions of ourselves. Any ending can trigger the grieving process, and I'm here to help you hold the weight of that grief and help you explore it, without expecting a timeline for you to 'move on' (we do not 'get over' grief) or feeling as though you shouldn't talk about it anymore. Grief is also misunderstood, and sometimes the people around us are so scared of it, that they don't know what to do with people who are experiencing it. I make sure to handle endings in the therapy relationship carefully; I always offer an ending session, we can end gradually with a plan, and I will let you know ahead of time if I am going away or there's any changes to the work.

Therapy is a relational experience. People don't just talk through their problems with the therapist - they act them out with the therapist. What happens outside the room naturally occurs within the room and in the dynamic. This is a good thing! It means we can look at the patterns and behaviours without judgement so that we can explore a different pattern and way to respond. A secure therapy relationship helps people build secure attachment styles. Therapy will also help people deal with conflicts eg: 'rupture and repair'. At some point, the therapist might make a mistake, use the wrong word, disappoint the client; all humans get it wrong. A good therapist can identify a rupture or ask for feedback and then work alongside you to repair that rupture. This ultimately builds more trust going forward. Some ruptures in our lives cannot be repaired or forgiven because they are just too big - there's no expectation of forgiveness in our work together, but I can help you move past the rupture. Insecure attachment styles usually develop through insecure caregiving/parenting, relational trauma and relationship abuse. The good news is people can learn to have an 'earned-secure attachment style' and identify relationships that are healthy vs relationships that are unsafe.

I offer support to those who are either diagnosed or have a strong inkling that they might be neurodiverse. It's important to note that only a psychiatrist can make this diagnosis and as a therapist I cannot diagnose you myself. However, I can help you manage the symptoms of these conditions and lend a space where you can hopefully unmask and bring your authentic self. Some people prefer not to have a diagnosis and some ADHD people prefer not to use medication. People who are neurodivergent can experience traumatic stress from living in a world that does not understand and does not cater to the way their brains work. ADHD and Autistic people are also prone to experiencing trauma from abuse in relationships. There is also a link between ADHD and PMDD for afab people. Being a neurodivergent child in a scary, confusing, adult world with a mainstream education system is destabilizing enough. I can help you work with and celebrate your differences whilst also acknowledging the pain and alienation that has come from it. I used to work with children in schools with SEN needs and this was a rewarding experience, these children taught me so much and helped me realise that my own time at school was that of a neurodivergent child that didn't fit in or belong to the limited structures. Our brains are different but they are not defected or broken.